I have a feeling I may regret this in the morning, but this idea is stuck in my head so here it goes. Please reply with thoughts and especially AP reports about the following. Is this just me being cynical/satirical or is it perhaps, A Thing?

I have been trying to put my finger on the goals my group had for role-playing lo these many years, and I think this sums up a lot of it:

Adolescent Male Masturbatory Fantasy.

This is a particular Sim aesthetic in which the most important attribute of every player character is BAD-ASSERY, expressed as:

1) He always gets the girl
2) He takes whatever he wants, usually by force
3) Anything that stands in his way gets smacked down, HARD
4) He faces momentary setbacks, but only from cool, BAD ASS opponents, then see #3, #2 and #1

In short, all of these characters are CONAN, as imagined by a 14 year old boy.

I think you basically, more or less, nailed down a pretty popular gaming goal. Arguably, such an approach might have been quite common historically, though not well suported by the majority of traditional designs (mostly, things like high mechanical whiff factor or strong GM empowerment tend to get in the way). Either way, seems like a valid and worthwhile reason for role-playing.

I'm not sure whether you provide enough AP material for the purposes of a discussion here (i.e. no specific gaming experiences). I'd give some examples myself, only I don't even know where to start...

Are you positing this as a problem, or is it just an observation? I'm asking because while I most commonly see this particular phenomenon judged as a problem, I'm also well aware of people and groups that actively try to get to this sort of thing - replace "adolescent" with "primal" and "masturbatory" with "focused", and you pretty much describe the classical sword & sorcery right there.

To compare, this sort of thing never came naturally to me and my friends when we were adolescents, and that hasn't changed now, either. Our comfortable and assumed mode of play always was about setting and character adherence - I could just wish that we'd had any aesthetic motivations that were as clear and well-communicated as "I get the girl and look cool doing it." I'm reminded of an early, long fantasy campaign we had where all high points of the campaign were really about our ability to weave dramatically satisfying plot arcs with the tools the game provided (illusionistic tools, understand - whatever content we created in the game needed to happen without overt negotiation) - the coolest thing about the game at the time pretty much was having your character involved in significant interaction at all, and the more dramatic and multifaceted it was, the better it was. As I remember it, the high point of the campaign was when it was revealed that one of the player characters was the brother of the most powerful sorceress in the realm; this was cool because it tied the character into the setting in a manner that was not a given, considering the tools and techniques provided by the game itself. (This was with Elhendi, a Finnish fantasy game that might be characterized in general terms as very rules-light Runequest.) This is about as far as possible from the wish-fulfillment aesthetic you describe.

This is not to say that I'm completely unfamiliar with the phenomenon you describe in the real world, I've just encountered players to get to the table with those sorts of expectations very rarely. The two cases I remember were both superhero games, interestingly enough - it seems that superheroes are a comfortable topic for this sort of thing. In both cases one player reacted with outright anger and frustration at complications set against his character - in retrospect it was pretty obvious that he wanted to narrate how his character succeeds, not let that success be threatened by the rules. Having the player's proposed solution to a situation (interrogation of a henchman to find out the mastermind's evil plan, if I remember correctly) blocked by the GM might seem like a completely unnecessary move to that sort of player.

All that aside, are you familiar with BARBAREN? It's this game-in-development by Frank Tarcikowski, and it seems to me that your group might like it - it's all about the barbarian heroes doing their barbarian stuff in a very unabashed manner. I find this a very interesting design goal, and in case you think it's a problem that your group likes this sort of thing - why would it be? (Of course if you don't like it yourself, that might be a problem.)

Hi John,

Good call. There was some discussion about this in the Adept forum: Character conversion and Elric books for Sorcerer & Sword background (help!), but it was tuned to a pretty explicit version of the topic and I think the more general issue was missed.

Here's my question, which might focus Eero's point: how many game systems, and how many years, did (or have) you spent in trying to reach this? Did it work ever? I'm asking because as I see it, there's a built-in contradiction. If the character never encounters actual adversity, the victories are hollow and become unsatisfying with repetition. Yet actual adversity also means that success is not guaranteed: the character will also suffer loss, despair, and defeat, in addition to frequent setbacks. In the mind-set you're describing, even the setbacks are unacceptable, perhaps terrifying - the character must always win or self-esteem suffers in what feels like an irreparable way.

I've seen this most often in terms of superhero role-playing, with a sort of Wolverine syndrome - he senses anything, can't be ambushed, knows everything about anything military or espionage, ignores nearly all damage, recovers from any degree of damage, cuts through anything, is faster than anyone, never loses his cool except in even-more-cool berserk rages, says wise and blunt things in a way that shuts other people up, et cetera, et cetera, all the time. Playing with someone who's into this (and again, due to the contradiction, is doomed to failure) turns into an exercise where everyone else has to keep stroking this image too, and the whole game becomes a service to this one guy's impossible need to see this image fulfilled.

My question concerns game systems because I'm trying to get an idea of how much and how widely you've sought this goal, and also to see whether you've been successful at it. It may be that I'm too pessimistic.

Best, Ron

Well, this is what I'm trying to puzzle out. This certainly seems like a perfectly valid goal. Done well I think this could be really fun and I'm tossing ideas around in my head on how I could design such a game. Thanks Eero, I'll put BARBAREN on my list of games to check out.

But it also seems to me that if this idea was firing on all cylinders it would be nothing less than a pure ego-stroking circle jerk. That isn't to say it would be bad, but let's just call it what it is: pure wish fulfillment. It would have the trappings of Gamism without the teeth, to echo Ron. Although in this case it isn't "oooo! look how EVIL I am" it's "ooooo! look how COOL I am!" As long as Gam isn't the desired agenda, I think that would be OK.

In practice, I insisted as the GM to keep some honest "yes you can fail" challenge in the game, but over time that became mostly talk. What we actually did came fairly close to this sometimes, despite an unsupportive System and the general Illusionist shtick. We went at least a dozen Systems and worked around all of them to try and make this work. Incidentally, it was almost entirely on the GM's shoulders to make this work: not only making sure everyone got to look cool but preserving the Illusion that the players actually earned something when it was all really fiat.

One contrary point: I think setbacks are a critical component of this aesthetic. Die Hard would be what it is if Bruce Willis didn't get his ass handed to him. My players are on board with that, I think. The distinction is that such setback never amount to *failure* in any meaningful way, and they always enhance the cool-ness of the hero, they NEVER make him look weak or incompetent.

In practice, I insisted as the GM to keep some honest "yes you can fail" challenge in the game, but over time that became mostly talk.

Hi John,

Barbaren is your game. I dunno what else to say. I mean, it's got everything you're talking about with enough humor and enough real effort, and some really interesting but not de-macho-ing ways to fail, to make it worth doing.

This is the Actual Play forum, and I'd really like to see some input from you about what systems you've used and what's happened when you played. I mean, you've been pretty clear about why, but not so much on how.

Best, Ron

One observation: we know that in the movies (or the books) the hero always wins. End of story. We KNOW it. And we ignore it throughout the whole movie (or book). Because while we don't wonder about whether he will win, only how. The "how" is what we watch the movie for.

Conan, and I'm talking classic Howardian Conan not the derided 14-year old claimed masturbatory fantasy, is the best example I can think of for this in literature. We KNOW Conan wins. We KNOW he survives. This is a flat-out given. There's never any doubt. He has setbacks and obstacles, but his life is never in any "real" danger from our standpoint. We know he lives a long life and becomes King of Aquilonia.

Why we deride the idea that such fore-knowledge somehow invalidates the experience is beyond me: did you ever feel invalidated by knowing Howard's Conan lives? If you're like most, probably not. So ask yourself what makes these stories so gripping, and how do you build a game around that? Importantly, CAN you build a game around that?

Hi Raven,

I have two points to make about that.

The trouble with using that concept is that the begin-end of role-playing sessions doesn't necessarily map to the begin-end of published stories. Conan gets his ass kicked and his armies defeated pretty frequently, and in that moment and at that time, the loss has to be real. It's a genuine reduction of power or presence for the character.

In role-playing, such things may be experienced as the end of a session, or perhaps worse (from the perspective of John's description), as the necessary set-up for some other prepared situation. I'm thinking of The Scarlet Citadel, in which the story begins with the end of a battle in which Conan is defeated both militarily and personally (yes, in single combat, our Cimmerian gets his ass handed to him). I can just hear the howls of protest if the GM landed the character in that situation to begin with, or if he ran the battle for five hours of play in order to decree that ending by fiat at the end.

Also, and I think this is especially important, he doesn't overcome the problem simply by hammering it harder in the next part of the story. He has to do something different, which in experiential game-terms, means (the character and the reader) accepting that he was defeated the first time.

In my role-playing experience, people who are committed to the idealized/mutated Conan + Wolverine goal have a terrible time with this. The character is the best. Always. So how can he be forced to "go around" a problem? No way! Coming out on top at the end is not good enough. He has to be depicted and experienced exactly as Conan is at the end of The Scarlet Citadel, all the time.

I think this discussion has reached its limits without actual play to provide context for us. Raven and I are now comparing our own experiences, or worse, generalizations based on our separate experiences, and our ability to critique the ideas is diminishing fast. John, we need you to explain what play of this sort is like for you and your fellow role-players, using what system, and how well it works.

Best, Ron

What is it like? Frustrating, both for the GM and players. Works? Just well enough to get your hope up before a bad rool of the dice or a decision by another player or (more often) the GM blows a big hole in your bad-ass image.

We've seen this in AD&D (1st and 2nd ed) and several versions of my Fantasy Heartbreaker. For reference, the latest version was FatE Task Resolution with Level Up and a shallow, linear power curve. Heavy GM authority and Black Box.

It's hard to think of an example where this worked really well. Here's a tiny snip that's close. Andy's warrior recently found a magic spear that caused stun and extra electrical damage on a critical hit. During an important battle he rolled 3 crits in a row. Not only are his immediate foes flying through the air into smoking heaps, every enemy nearby breaks and runs in terror which turns the tide of battle. Bad Ass, Andy at least is happy with that even though it was pure luck.

Here's a good example of when it didn't work. Tusk's background mentioned a battle with his master in which he crippled his master's sword arm. Tusk then had to set out on his own. Much later we have a climactic, one-on-one throwdown with the same master. They are beating the tar out of each other when Tusk lands a crippling blow on his master's arm. I decided to apply the rules as written and called for a 50-50 roll to see which arm. (suck rules, but that's not the point here) Naturally Tusk hits the already crippled arm, the fight continues and Tusk loses. Major bummer. All of the players called me to task on that. It would have been SUCH a cool ending if Tusk crippled the guy's other arm, why not ignore the rules and let it go? Alas, I was never focused only on the bad-assery. I always tried to juggle story, challenge and keeping a sensible, consistant world and as such I met those goals very inconsistantly.

For clear example of what it would look like if it worked, I need to turn to film. In "Conan the Barbarian" the big guy suffers a major setback when his enemy hits him on head with a hammer the size of a Volkswagon. Conan is stunned and his nemesis gloats for a while before crucifying Conan on the Tree of Woe. When a vulture lands on Conan to pick at his near-dead flesh, what does he do? He BITES ITS FUCKING HEAD OFF!  Bad. Ass. I can easily picture one of my players annoucing something just like that.

But that attitude is limiting. My players NEVER retreat, it's victory or death. Important NPCs are impossible, my players treat the Emporer of Mankind like some guy they met in a bar: "he had better treat me with respect or I'll kill him." I think the right system and some clear expectations could solve that, but it would be tricky.

I should be clear that this was an UNSTATED goal of some players in my group. We talked around it for years but never really expressed it as clearly as I did in the OP above. As the GM I was pursuing other goals (usually several at once, to our detriment) so naturally this never had a fair chance regardless of the system we used.

Hey John,

I found another older thread that might be relevant: [Sorcerer] I'm a clueless newbie with broad questions. It's kind of a mess, but we talk about the bad-asses in film and literature on page 2. My point is that they're only excellent bad-asses because they're really Big Softies underneath.

Here, I'll say that's a major contrast to the AMMF character, who is created largely to deny or (most positively) give a little escape from any sort of softness or vulnerability to influences from others.

All of which is to lead up to my response to your very useful post, which is, how often or well have you seen the bad-ass characters go all soft and become even more bad-ass because they cared about someone in the story which, actually, they didn't have to? It may not be a fair question because as you say, the AMMF stuff never did manage to fire on all cylinders in the first place, but I think it's an interesting idea to mull over.

Best, Ron

Jonas Negron was a total bad-ass thief. His character-defining adventure was a solo bit where he seduced the rich and beautiful wife of a Noble in order to steal her necklace. But it turned into something more when he realized how unhappy she was in her marriage and stole her away to another city and married her.

This was by far the exception that proved the rule. For whatever reason my players go out of their way to have NO meaningful relationships. Family? Dead. Friends? Nope, I'm a loner. Lovers? Love em' and leave 'em babe. So why are you in this group of adventurers if you're such a loner? Well, I'm also a TEAM PLAYER. Or some such nonsense.

Why is that? Are they afraid the GM will use those relationships to screw them over? Or is it a clear message (which I always missed) that I don't want the game to be about relationships?

Ron wrote:
Here, I'll say that's a major contrast to the AMMF character, who is created largely to deny or (most positively) give a little escape from any sort of softness or vulnerability to influences from others.

Ron wrote: In my role-playing experience, people who are committed to the idealized/mutated Conan + Wolverine goal have a terrible time with this. The character is the best. Always. So how can he be forced to "go around" a problem? No way! Coming out on top at the end is not good enough. He has to be depicted and experienced exactly as Conan is at the end of The Scarlet Citadel, all the time.

My players NEVER retreat, it's victory or death. Important NPCs are impossible, my players treat the Emporer of Mankind like some guy they met in a bar: "he had better treat me with respect or I'll kill him."

Hi all

I’m interested in a similar style of play to John maybe so I thought I’d share my thoughts.

I think Raven’s overview has a lot of merits but in my experience it absolutely was the system that was the primary factor in the spiral into Sueness.
When I first started role-playing I wanted to be a badass action hero (still do really) but then I started play using Warhammer and find that 78% of the time I swing my sword I hit thin air, I mean I completely miss my opponent. So I get frustrated because I’m not being bad ass. Then I describe my bad ass doing some wicked cool stunt and the GM decides that’s my intent and re-describes the actual stunt as Effect. So he’s stealing my thunder and I become more frustrated. Then I come up with some badass way of dealing with a problem, but it doesn’t work because the GM already knows what the solution is and we go through the whole combination lock routine of trying various things until we hit upon the ‘right’ solution. Also Raven hit it dead on with the whole go down, resurrected by Cleric, damaged by Vulture thing.
So my response is to start hitting the nail of badass harder to actually be a badass because the GM and the system won’t let me. Then suddenly we’re in fantasy as Special forces operations land. I’d begin to find myself playing up and getting really annoyed over loosing because I’d not yet really had a chance to win. Being passive aggressive is a big problem of mine and so my acting up tended to be playing like a jerk bad ass instead of a hero bad ass.

Now in the play that John’s described it seems that some of the task resolution combat roles are too much in the tactical wargame department to provide consistent cinematic badassery. This could be my preference blinding me though and another big factor is how much real world play time is taken up by combat and how important it is. In my last campaign for example the protagonist killed 300 orcs single handily protecting a village. It took us about 2 and a half hours game time to play out but it was really fun. During this time several shops exploded, he went over a waterfall, destroyed a bridge, all sorts of things.
My single biggest annoyance as a PC was never being able to do that type of stuff until the forge theory forums allowed me to get what I want out of play. So yeah in that case the system mattered quite a lot. It allowed us to get to the same aesthetic understanding because the system became our tool instead of us being slaves to it.

So, to sum up, AMMF ...

... is in fact, A Thing.
... is a valid and worthwhile reason for role-playing. (Filip)
... pretty much describes classical sword & sorcery (Eero)
... is just Mary Sue wrt roleplaying, but that's in the eye of the beholder (greyorm)
... allows for setbacks, but setbacks just make PCs more badass
... PCs are big softies, not just stone cold killers. They need something to motivate them or there's no play. (Ron)
... is going to be the focus of Barbaren, which I really need to get ASAP! (Eero)

Hi John,

Actually, I think you're blending two different points together in a way which overlooks problems.

The AMMF in classic pulp sword-and-sorcery, tough-guy film, and superhero comics is not actually an AMMF. He is eminently touchable, rather than untouchable; he seeks human contact and connection feverishly although tacitly or under the cover of denials, rather than avoiding it. Despite all the yipyap about "anti-heroes," he is in fact a hero, merely a rather unwashed and superficially iconoclastic one.

The AMMF as a role-playing goal is very different and represents the literally adolescent inability to understand any of the characters in those stories. The insecure, frustrated, and probably inhibited adolescent can only see two things: these characters repay disrespect or torment with savage retribution, and no one ever questions the fact that they are manly men. To that adolescent, this seems like heaven on earth. AMMF play is the way to try to experience a state that the person attributes to the fictional character, but which is not found in that character at all. (This translation often occurs in texts as well, as the character becomes an icon rather than a figure in a given story. I particularly call attention to the character of John Rambo in First Blood, as opposed to the Rambo franchise icon. That's the AMMF transition in a nutshell.)

All this is to say that Eero's point was incorrect. One cannot glibly replace "adolescent" with "primal," and "masturbatory" with "focused" and say, hey, that's just like classical sword-and-sorcery. Those aren't synonyms. If you replace the terms like that, then you don't get AMMF any more. You get Conan, Wolverine, et cetera, with the features of internalized softness and responsibility which are the real strengths of the textual characters - and that's anathema to AMMF goals.

None of this is a judgment, by the way. Should people care to play with AMMF as their goal, I suppose they could, but the fundamental contradiction I pointed out in my earlier post will act as a halter and a source of frustration at all times. As your own play-experience testifies, system or no system. I also think you've summarized that point incorrectly in your latest post - I am not saying, "Gee, if you provide the right motivation, the AMMF player will be happy." I'm saying that the AMMF player is absolutely uninterested in playing with such motivations at all.

Best, Ron

Ron, we're talking past each other a bit, so let me clarify my position.

None of my players qualify as one of your "Wolverine" players, and though I have heard about and can imagine them, I don't think I've played for any length of time with such a player. My players accept failure as long as there is no Force behind it.

We agree there are two different phenomena here, seperated by whether or not the player will EVER accept defeat. Would you call it Sword & Sorcery if the players accept defeat and AMMF if they don't? I see that distinction, but I would simply dismiss the case where players reject any kind of failure as clearly non-functional play. So let me draw up another distinction.

I'm imagining a Sim RPG where the driving goal of play is to make your PC look really badass. This is not the same as a Sim game where the goal is to celebrate the Conan material! So even if John Rambo (in First Blood) is a fairly deep, meaningful character and in the following movies he's a characature, that depth of character is beside the point. We need failure to make the game functional but not for any thematic reasons.

Now I would still consider such play pure wish-fullfilment. We don't watch "Predetor" or "Die Hard" or anything we'd call an action movie because of the emotional themes; we watch because we want to identify with this mythic badass character and see him be a badass. And it's much more interesting when he gets his head kicked in first then comes back to win. So it's still wish fullfillment and I'd still call it AMMF. For me Sword & Sorcery would fit either the Sim game celebrating Conan or the Nar game set in that genre.

Hey,

Sorry - I got slammed with stuff outside the screen. I'll reply later.

Best, Ron

I think there is a perspective missing here, that of the players.

I can think of a few situations where I have been forced into these situations through circumstance, and as such I wonder if part of this problem is conditioning.

For instance in a game a few years back I decided I would be the combat monster of the group, and by doing so I accepted a few responsibilities. I was expected by everyone to be the guy who ran into combat despite the odds, and it was equally expected that I should succeed when it mattered, which forced me to use the system to maximum advantage and meant that my actions in each became very similar and repetitive . In this situation failure became an intolerable option, and I would face an inward struggle as to me failure was not only acceptable but interesting, but to everyone else including the GM it was clearly not. The rewards I gained from this were all about the respect of important NPCs, and as a politically minded person I used this as leverage, and was able to get my role-playing kicks from this side of the game, but importantly this was GM provided reward, indeed the GM has since admitted that he didn't always get where I was heading with my political sub-plots but let them happen anyway.

On a more human level many times that I have played a character that is perceived as highly competent there has often been a feeling of unspoken collusion with the GM, many times in the middle of things that really can't fail there is that half smile of approval that the plot is moving as expected and we both know it.

These and many similar experiences have made me reconsider the extreme forms of play that have been described in this thread as potentially due to conditioning.

I imagine what it would be like if my whole gaming experience had been shaped by these things: unspoken understandings and peer group expectations. I then consider what would I feel like if suddenly the situation turned into a real possibility of loss or of letting down the players around me. I imagine this would be horrific in the extreme, and very disorientating. And, if the only proven mechanism of success or acceptance has been to push back harder then such situations would no doubt escalate.

So, whereas a player may come across as attempting to impose an image of bad-assery on the game, it may not be the case. Instead it may be that the player is lost within a rigid and defined role and seeking the unspoken reassurance of the GM.

To put it another way, I suspect it may all be due to an unintentional negative feedback mechanism existent at many tables, and like many negative feedback systems it is regulated by external adjustment, in this case by the approval or otherwise of the group and especially the GM.

Hiya,

You're right - my post went off in another direction, mainly due to disagreeing with Eero in about a dozen ways, and some of your reply goes that way too, and probably neither of us wants to go there. To be brief, the whole idea of any sort of play being valid (or not) is itself worthless, and although that's not what I wanted to address, it's easy to get there from what I wrote.

I'll say something I think you're saying, and make one point about that, and then I think whatever good or relevant stuff I've said can be left as is, and the rest ignored.

Basically, you're saying there's something you do want to accomplish with this sort of (for lack of a better word) energy in play, and I'm with you on that. In fact, I would have thought it nearly impossible before playing Barbaren, which I love to play for just that sort of fun you're talking about. My point is that it hasn't been realized for you and others in play to date, and I still think it's helpful to think about why. You're pretty much the only person who can do that, though.

For fun: [BARBAREN!] Raiders in a foreign land, [Barbaren] Today, I am a man!, and [Barbaren] My manly guy.

Best, Ron

I played a game of 7th Sea where the GM told us before we started playing that it was highly unlikely that our characters would die.  In fact, he said that even when our characters attempted dangerous and ridiculous stunts as long as it was suitably dramatic, appropriate to the story-at-hand, and exciting for everyone at the table our characters would not be killed.  This was an awesome game.  Knowing that we could push the creative limits of the situations our characters found themselves in without fear of losing our character contributed to this.  Notice that I did not say the GM said our charcters could never fail; only that they would not die.  Our characters were at times bested, humiliated, and even tortured.  And simply using the dice mechanics the way they were written, even the things our characters were supposed to be good at we could lose a dice roll too.  (I'm tempted to go into how it feels in a D&D game when this phenomenon happens and ask why it leaves a bad taste in a players' mouth) I probably don't have to say that our characters could have died if it would have been apparent that the story was moving itself in that direction from both the owning player's and the GM's standpoint.

To translate this to the topic, what about games that allow players to outline what it is about their character they want to be unchangeable?  The group gets together and the players decide from among a list of elements which of those elements the GameMaster is never allowed to touch based on the results of dice rolls?  Using my 7th Sea game as an example, character death would be that thing.  For either a Sword and Sorcery or AMMF style game, would it be beneficial to do something like this?

-- John M.

Hi there,

Here are some interesting tidbits about character death from the many years of discussion here about this issue. From oldest to most recent ...

Fate and death shows how death eventually worked its way into the design of Dust Devils, totally reversing Matt's original notions about it.

Death & GNS doesn't get very far but Do you care if your character dies? and Character death mechanics? are very strong.
There are some interesting issues in Character death in Torchbearer as well.
Schismatic Puddle is brief, but includes some some really interesting ideas about death and play.
Death and dying was kind of a turning point for the general discussion of the matter.
[The Shab-al-Hiri Roach] DU MUMUA AK/ÑAR, Shab-al-Hiri Roach] Revisions, Questions, Kušu Barultag, [Shab-al-Hiri Roach] The Horror in the Museum, and Shab-al-Hiri Roach] PC Death show how Jason wrestled with why and how character death might or might not be appropriate for a given design. (Jeez, I'd forgotten how many threads this took!)
[D&D 3.5] Adjust my CA for this game! shows how goals of play have everything to do with the function of character death.
Special Damage less lethal shows how I wrestled with the same issues as Jason, but found a different solution because I was designing a different game.
Interview with Vincent and me, beginning with Marshall Burns' second post on the third page, includes a useful list of how character death is defined in rules-terms across a number of different games.

Geez, that was kind of  walk through history. I think it applies to this thread because again and again, it became clear that character death was best considered as an expression of the goals of play.

Best, Ron

Hi,

So, I've been following this thread, and it gave me an idea.  It's really rough, and you might be able to use it and you might not, but hopefully it's helpful either way.

So, here's the deal.  Two kinds of conflicts:  simple and serious.  In simple conflicts, the GM says what the opposition does, and then you describe how your guy runs rough-shod over it.  These are just to make your guy look cool.

Serious conflicts happen when, if your guy loses, he would suffer some sort of setback, humbling, crushing defeat. That's when we roll dice.  I don't know what rolling system to use, but I don't think it particularly matters; just pick one that you like.  You could do roll+stat, or you could do Sorcerer-style dice pools, or anything else, as long as it gives you a margin of victory.

Okay, so, if you win, then your guy wins.  If you lose, you get a choice.  You either accept the loss with all its attendant consequences (which maybe should be made clear before rolling), or you don't. 

If you don't accept the loss, then you get to win, but you suffer "damage" in the process, an amount equal to the margin of the loss.  This "damage" doesn't really represent how injured or whatever your guy is, but you should feel free to color it that way if you want.  When you accumulate a certain amount of damage (I don't know where to set the threshold), your guy is taken out of the story -- dead, retired, banished to another universe, whatever makes sense (maybe you get to choose?).

If you accept the loss, you suffer the consequences.  Don't worry, your guy will overcome them, because your guy is a badass.  But you get VENGEANCE!! points equal to the margin of the loss.  You get to spend these points to get re-rolls in later conflicts. 

So, the idea is, you get to choose when you lose, and losing makes you more dangerous.

-Marshall